There are no written checks to test the comfort you have with your partner. You never know how close you are to him or her, but you always want to believe that you reside in their heart and vice versa.
I think it is a fairly good idea to come out of such illusions once in a while and do a reality check. And for this very momentary occupation (for all of us love the dream world), there are a few checks, according to me, that can help you know exactly how comfortable you are with your partner. I call them Barriers. That’s because a love relationship is all about crossing barriers. I mean, all you do from the moment you start off to the time you end (the speed of this process has contemporarily become really fast), is grapple with such teeny weeny issues, that are made to loom large by the virtue of simply being in a relationship. Love relationship breeds complications. That’s a fact that our most Herculean Romeos, who have sailed through the rough waters (and I bet they would have rather not), silently lost a slice of their once round arse, would also never deny.
The BURP barrier – This is the first frontier. Have you dropped the veil of I-never-burp- in-my-life yet? Or are you guys still left embarrassed after one of that momentary lapse of control to the mighty speed of gaseous travel? If you are very new to the relationship, say first 3 months, chances are its going to take some more time to cross this barrier but it should be just around the corner. 3 months is just about the right time for this level of comfort. After all you would have ventured into much more by now ;)
This level of ease speaks a lot about the chord you have struck with each other and just close you think you are to the other person.
The FART barrier – Now this is the mother of all barriers. I know couples who have spent 4 years and still not reached this comfort level. I feel its very important to reach this level of ease with each other. Its like salvation. It speaks a lot about how uninhibited the two people are in a relationship. No special attempts to keep a well carved image; not that farting out loud does any damage to it. But unfortunately it is perceived to. I feel you should just let it go. Everybody does it. Doesn’t matter if it’s the silent extinguisher or the blaring catastrophe. Just open the door to the hurricane, and back it up with a smile. That’s it!
I suggest you should have burp and fart competitions between each other. Its good fun! Try it out.
On a serious note, it will bring a smile and more than that on your faces. Break barriers of pretence. Allow you to be yourself. You will suddenly find yourself more comfortable around your mate. It would be like being all alone, away from any scanners.
And for all those women wondering why most men are more comfortable around men, and boast of that special manly bond. Well, I guess you must now be able to guess why. No barriers between men. None!
11 comments:
he he...awesome post dude.....
Okay, I get your point...but you know what?? its a good idea to have a disclaimer in your page when u suggest ppl to have fart competitions..lol..As I have actually seen couples break up coz the guy wears lungi @ home...:P
On a more serious note...I would say a lot of it depends on the chemistry you share among yourselves....and it needs to be gradually built up..
and the best way to start is..by not portraying an 'ideal' picture abt yourself...its absolutely okay if you do something which she doesnt like....thrs nothing wrong in owning urself up...and wearing your skin...:)
Before I end...great thought and a fantastic post.
you are yet to venture into the more formidable 'barriers' !!
but ... haven't you heard of "PERSONAL SPACE"???!!!!
it ws a nice one dude...jst keep writin on anythin n evrythin tht entrs ur mind....
Do u just preach or even practice it?
No offence meant, just pun intended
:)
well paddy... may be i am a part of the larger group of the society ;)
gud one actually this needs to be taken in all d relationships either its better to say you are as gud as aquaintance
its like being a VJ in relationship or if you dont have that kind of comfor level in your relationship its li being an RJ
Prima Facie understanding of the post dam interesting and yet intriguing to a lay man (no puns intended)like me .. Do you believe there are no barriers to true love.. and thats why over a period of time the B&F factors are negated?
Well the question here the period, for some its a matter of days for some a decade.. but yet they might have excellent relationship.
I personally think it depends on the physical proximity u share with a person...if you are staying in with the person then its bound to go in few days.. because.. u must be farting everyday.
On the Hind side, if breaking barriers are important.. why feel its intriguing because i feel drawing lines are equally important , as u do not want the other person feel taken for granted..
but then again as i said.. its absolute rocket science for the self confessed life time President of the Singles Club
good post dude
thanks a lot zico... man what i am talkin in forms of barrier here is actually at a very sub-conscious level... if u can't do it ou tloud in front of your mate, u aren't exactly the most comfortable person in a relationship..and so it shows that u can still go a long way in terms of reaching a higher comfort level... might just push u enuff to eat more vada pav's or gobhi or something ;)
PREPOSTEROUS!!!!!
but then, i guess u forgot about halitosis and body odor, what say?? ;)
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